Do GOOD this New Year
It begins with a kiss. The preparation, however, takes days, weeks, sometimes months. It’s the second time, at least, in less than one week that entire families come together to celebrate. Not only families, but friends are invited for this holiday delight of a party. Many times, even those we would only consider acquaintances, waltz through the doors of our homes and are greeted happily and with all warmth of a decade’s long friend. The evening goes by with a lull at first, but then sprints into a pace of quickness and frivolity that whisks us straight to the countdown- 10, 9, 8, 7, 6, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1-HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!
The preparation may begin between two pals during a trip around the block with toddler monsters in tow, at the end of October. A fleeting conversation about this fun night may take place over a sink full of dirty dishes after the Thanksgiving meal. For the southern procrastinators among us, the same day we fill our tummies with black-eyed peas and collards and our hearts with hopes of fortune in the coming New Year, is when our plans are realized. Whether it’s an evening of glitz, dancing and new people or a rare late night with the kids and board games, filled with sleepy yawns, some thought is given to the night and to the New Year.
While resolutions for the New Year may not be a part of your plans at all, a bit of change for the better never hurt any of us. Typically, there is no middle ground when it comes to change. You are either a roll with the punches individual or an “I’m gonna stand here till the cows come home” individual. Now, I honestly don’t know what the latter of those two means, exactly, but since most people I know do NOT possess cows, in which case, they aren’t coming home….well, you get the picture. Some of us tend to choose an extreme resolution like, “I’m going to lose a thousand pounds.” Others choose from vague generalizations like, “I vow to be a better person.” My response to that one is always, “Couldn’t you have done that yesterday?” Seriously, in order to be a better person, you must have better action. A PLAN. You know, like the plan for the party. How well you plan determines the outcome of your party. But, how do you plan to be a better person?
An array of self help books line the local bookstore shelves. Motivational podcasts are readily available. Parents of teens and young adults will gladly make a list of ways their offspring can improve. (only if asked, of course) So many opportunities for change and growth present themselves before us on a daily basis. I could have researched and made an outline, with an attached list of examples for you. I would have made them relevant to 2019 and added some reasons why this list is THE one you should follow. But, the list is yours. It’s the one you always have in your head and in your heart. The only vote I would like to have is that you don’t start with the extreme. Maybe promising yourself to smile on your worst day is a better start than promising yourself you will live everyday as if born on fluffy clouds of contentment, amidst rainbows and sunshine.
As a southern momma, I tend to say the phrase, “Do good”, to my children before a test or anything they take part in. My oldest always reminds me that Superman does “GOOD”; what I meant to say is, “Do well.” The joke is on him this time. Do GOOD this New Year. You can still start 2019 with a kiss, but be like Superman and do GOOD.